This Is 40 – This is Love

By December 5, 2018blog posts

I confess I feel similar to how former Canadian Football great, Michael ‘Pinball’ Clemons, described himself referring to the help he received over the course of his career that like him I feel like a turtle on a fence post as I did not get here by myself.  I am grateful for all of the teachers who have imparted knowledge on me throughout the years and I believe one of the main reasons I am here today is to be able to give back and help others achieve what you may feel is impossible or to even take another step peacefully and harmoniously along the path that you are currently on.

Life is a delicate dance of internal alignment and external circumstances. And some of this dance is in our control and some of it isn’t. But what I know is that the dance goes much smoother if we choose to go right into the middle of our life and send love and healing to our energy field around us.

But how do we embrace and expand the most fulfilling experience of love?

We begin by going within and uniting with the unconditional generous love the universe has for each of us. Feel the flow of that love by remembering the moments that left you breathless or melted your heart. The first moment that you held your newborn, the moment you experienced the vast majesty of the sky or mountains or ocean waves or for me that one moment I first stood on the edge of the Grand Canyon.

Leo Buscaglia once said, “Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself.” To Love is, by definition, interdependent.  It involves relationships with others and belonging. That love is ours to share and when we do, joy multiplies beyond our imagination. We all can flow towards a new experience of giving, receiving and connecting.

To experience love fully means experiencing who you are fully. Nothing is more natural. Love is holistic. The only reason we do not experience love everywhere is because we are not used to living at the level of the true self.  One you realize this you can start to live love rather than looking for love. To keep the flow of love, take the time to put the focus on the different levels of love available.  When you notice then, the simple action of putting your attention helps to make it an intimate part of you.

If you appreciate something, like a sunrise, take the moment to say to yourself: this is love. These are no small things, love is gentle by nature and many experiences are infused with. As you begin to notice love your awareness will expand naturally and then it becomes easier to make those gestures of kindness and compassion which are expressions of your true self. You then develop the awareness of the universal love that embodies all of creation.

I learned that love isn’t perfect. It isn’t a fairy-tale or a storybook and it doesn’t always come easy. Love is overcoming obstacles, facing challenges, fighting to be together, holding on and never letting go. It is a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define, and impossible to live without. Love is work, but most of all, love is realizing that every hour, every minute, every second was worth it because we did it together.

Big things always start small. The healing of the nations or the reconciliation of the moral arch of the universe starts in you. You cannot give the world what you do not have. You cannot forgive others if you are not willing to forgive yourself. You can’t love others if you refuse to love others. Loves moment starts in you.  What is the first simple step you are being called to make.  What is the simple shift you can take because once you do it you will know what comes next. It starts with you.

Love really is the most powerful force in the world. When we express ourselves from a centered place of love – miracles happen. Through Compassion, Authenticity, and Humility you will find the inspiration to love the life you were meant to lead and transcend any season of life.


As I reflect on the past 13 years I reflect on the stages of my own evolving consciousness leading up to my 40th birthday that I have had to go through – sometimes once, sometimes over and over and some right now.  I hope what I have learned may help you.



Kevin T. Cahill is an award winning sales professional and consultant specializing in the art of managing change and achieving great results. As the founder of The Change Revolution, this international best selling author and speaker inspires men and women alike. As someone who has mastered the art of resilience and hope, Kevin’s philosophy as a clarity builder is strategic and results driven. Kevin’s passion is to equip individuals and organizations with a renewed sense of clarity and excitement, knowing that positive change will bring about positive gains. His exciting creation The Change Revolution offers a winning blueprint for navigating through change and achieving success.

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